Accident 1989

<body topmargin=0 leftmargin=0 marginheight=0 marginwidth=0> <table cellpadding=0 cellspacing=0 border=0><tr> <td valign="top" colspan=2 height=90 BGCOLOR="#006699" TEXT="#080000" background="600fd5a3.jpg"> <div> <FONT SIZE="5" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" ><B>About me</B></FONT><B>    </B><B> |     </B><A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="About me"><B>home</B></A></div> <div> <A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="About me"><B><IMG SRC="5a40e0e0.png" border=0 width="14" height="14" ALT="up" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></B></A><B>   </B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="14" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" WIDTH="14"><B>     </B><A HREF="id313.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Brothers and Sisters"><B><IMG SRC="5a50e0e0.png" border=0 width="14" height="14" ALT="previous" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></B></A><B>  </B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="14" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" WIDTH="14"></div> <div> </div> </td> </tr><tr> <td valign="top" width=210 BGCOLOR="#FFCC66" TEXT="#080000" background="601d2b03.jpg"> <div> <IMG SRC="451ab1d0.jpg" border=0 width="171" height="285" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> </td> <td valign="top" height=390 width="100%" BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000"> <div> <I>Accident 1989</I></div> <div> On this date, my life changed forever.  All practices, loves and endearments were gone, lost forever.</div> <div> A new awareness, new beginnings and a new love for all life on this earth.</div> <bR> <bR> <div> <IMG SRC="44fcf030.jpg" border=0 width="719" height="515" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> <bR> <div> My left  eye and cornor of my smile/lips. At this time I've ended my facial recovery and am so proud that I look normal again with my smile.   My smile is perfect with both cheeks and facial muscles working to broaden my smile and show my teeth. if you look hard one can see the muscle to my cheek still is a problem..but I certainly am able to pull that smile off...</div> <div> In this picture my right side is still having problems with use.  Also, I still have that three wheel bike wrapped around me in order to walk..  I found this picture yesterday and thought I'd share....how far I have come....</div> <bR> <div> Attacked on rec.pets.birds this  was  my response.  It is a sad day when one should feel guilty for being a victim and to  justify another  by focus on injuries  occured in being a  victim.</div> <bR> <div>  </div> <div> Message 1 in thread </div> <div> From: Cherane (cherane@aol.com)</div> <div> Subject: Shocked </div> <div> <B>Newsgroups: rec.pets.birds</B></div> <div> View this article only </div> <div> <B>Date: 1997/09/25 </B></div> <div> <B> </B></div> <bR> <div> cherane writing below</div> <bR> <div> Back in July of 1993 Issue  or it might be 1992, my story of a head injury</div> <div> and pet birds you'll find.  This  Monday, 29th of September eight (8) years</div> <div> ago I had a accident that lefft me with a minor head injury to my brain</div> <div> stem.   Through the years I had to relearn most  everything pertaining to</div> <div> speach, grammar, english, walking plus a few other things.  </div> <bR> <div> I was going home (about three blocks) and at the top of a two lane draw</div> <div> bridge with cement walls on each side.  Two drivers behind me one in a</div> <div> truck and another in a car as they were drag racing BEHIND me.  They both</div> <div> hit me and the first crash into the cement wall was on my drivers side</div> <div> which brought  car into my head, face, or upper body.  I crashed into the</div> <div> cement walls five times going back and forth as the auto build up speed</div> <div> with each crash into the cement wall on both sides of the bridge.   The two</div> <div> that were having fun just left the tavern to change my life forever.</div> <bR> <div> Along the way, I have met some people who accepted me with who I was for</div> <div> that day without any "atta girl".  Most of all, I am here to tell you that</div> <div> I have never been subjected to so much "lets see what I can get out of this</div> <div> person" attitude nor have I been taken advantage of as much as when I first</div> <div> started to buy, trade or anything else pertaining to birds.   the people</div> <div> who could justify their actions by making a statement of my "having brain</div> <div> inury" or "she doesn't know what she is saying" in the meantime this</div> <div> allowed for the person to have "won" their stand for after all, "I had a</div> <div> problem" as they could trade me sick or dying birds, hybrids.  I could give</div> <div> some stories belive me.  yet, I have just gone forward with my life.</div> <bR> <div> Upon Diana's death and funeral a renewal of living is withine me as I</div> <div> might maintain my wits, sanity and faith in some people that I have met</div> <div> along my journy of recovery, as I have met some  wonderful people that are</div> <div> in birdskeeping.</div> <bR> <div> I'm always amazed in how a person can cheat me, yell at me, attack me</div> <div> ....and in the end, they are telling others that it is my problem of a head</div> <div> injury, thus allows  or justifies their actions, (they think) .  In the</div> <div> meatime, if I'm late for an appointment it is my  "brain injury"!  but if</div> <div> your late, it is okay.  If I cuss for what you have just done to me, the</div> <div> focus is the cussing, NOT that you just ROB me!....this happened at PUBLIX</div> <div> suppermarket, but it does show it happens even in my daily living, except</div> <div> for one diffferenec, there is nothing to SHOW that I have experienced a</div> <div> head trauma, nothing.  My speach is perfect, m voice is beautiful, my walk</div> <div> is perfect (I practice each day).  Each day, I have another recovery with</div> <div> completness as this past week, I FELT my swallow for the first time in</div> <div> eight years, I can swallow with control!  I'm sure my breathing, upper</div> <div> respiratory will get better .  I am a different person because of this</div> <div> injury to me.  I make it a point to smile and be warm with anyone who has a</div> <div> less then perfect body,  NOT the "ATTA GIRL OR ATTA BOY"  attitude, but</div> <div> from my whole being.  </div> <div> I am not able to hate or get even with another.  I'm not able to "carry "</div> <div> that heavy luggage.  </div> <bR> <div> One of the main reasons for my writing  this note is this must not ever</div> <div> become my secret, shame or discredit to my person or about my self......and</div> <div> it seems this is used from time to time about me.  I'll assure everyone, my</div> <div> intelligence, my personality, and my person is here and always has been</div> <div> with me.  I do not deserve to be put off by remarks as has come to my</div> <div> attention again.</div> <bR> <div> It does seem, the only way others try to discredit me is by "bashing my</div> <div> head trauma".  I think it shows where they are comming from....God for give</div> <div> them if they suffer the same fate as I, or their loved ones, as I have seen</div> <div> this happen to others, after all...car accidents happen , the statistics of</div> <div> a head trauma is scary, not to matter who you are or how you have lived to</div> <div> wipe that all away.  No matter what degrees, life experiences or friends,</div> <div> all gone!</div> <bR> <div> I personally thank some very dear friends as from the first of meeting</div> <div> they didn't care what happen they were with me for the day of living and</div> <div> where I was that day, to grow with me and actually help me soak up my</div> <div> sponge of learning relearning.</div> <div> I am truely a humble being as I have come from a crawl to where I am today</div> <div> and noone, nothing will ever take a part of me away with their terrible</div> <div> attack about me.  </div> <bR> <div> One more point, I'm very protective of who  I am, me , the person!  as</div> <div> with my brain, body and soul, anything else is only loan to me, I will not</div> <div> take it to my grave, only my brain, body and soul will go with me, not </div> <div> anyone can rob me of what is mine and those of you who have read my post</div> <div> know better.</div> <bR> <div> Make it a point to love another today, along with  your pet  bird</div> <div> companion, for no reason other then they are alive to be loved by you and</div> <div> others..</div> <bR> <bR> <bR> <div> Cherane Pefley, CAS (Certified Avian Specialist)</div> <bR> <bR> <div> Date: 1997/09/25 </div> <div>  </div> <div> <B>------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------</B></div> <div> <A HREF="http://groups.google.com/groups?q=rec.pets.birds++microbiology+cherane&start=10&hl=en&lr=&ie=UTF-8&selm=19980110125601.HAA11414%40ladder02.news.aol.com&rnum=20" TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://groups.google.com/groups?q=rec.pe"><B>Love of my Birds</B></A></div> <bR> <div> <B>From: Cherane (cherane@aol.com)</B></div> <div> <B>Subject: Re: a celebrated life...was red bellied parrot(long) </B></div> <div> <B>This is the only article in this thread  </B></div> <div> <B>View: Original Format </B></div> <div> <B>Newsgroups: rec.pets.birds</B></div> <div> <B>Date: 1998/01/10 </B></div> <div> <B> </B></div> <bR> <div> <B>>A11190@ladder02.news.aol.com></B></div> <div> <B>>NNTP-Posting-Host: ladder02.news.aol.com</B></div> <div> <B>>X-Admin: news@aol.com</B></div> <div> <B>>Organization: AOL http://www.aol.com</B></div> <div> <B>>References: <19980109021400.VAA17150@ladder01.news.aol.com></B></div> <div> <B>></B></div> <div> <B>></B></div> <div> <B>></B></div> <div> <B>>>From: cherane@aol.com (Cherane) </B></div> <div> <B>>>Nah!  It took me four years to talk another eight years to walk and another</B></div> <div> <B>>>two</B></div> <div> <B>>>years to look like I had a face that belong to me.  Now, do you suppose I</B></div> <div> <B>>>would</B></div> <div> <B>>>have anything left over to buy birds?</B></div> <div> <B>></B></div> <div> <B>>Did you have your birds then too? However did you</B></div> <div> <B>>manage, if you did?! I've been sick now on/off 3 wks</B></div> <div> <B>>and it is difficult to give my birds the kind of attention</B></div> <div> <B>>I want to, and protect them from my illnesses at the </B></div> <div> <B>>same time.</B></div> <bR> <bR> <div> <B>Yes, I did!  they were my life and my motivation for continued relearning along</B></div> <div> <B>with a few friends, as my nurse who wrote all programs for me concerning</B></div> <div> <B>doctors and rehab programs.  She is still my best friend to this day.  Rose is</B></div> <div> <B>her name.  She oftens says that she'll never underestimate another head injured</B></div> <div> <B>person again since hes has known what I have gone through.  However, today our</B></div> <div> <B>friendship is very different as we are no longer with me the patient and she</B></div> <div> <B>the nurse or caretaker.  (Matter of a fact, I'm the caretaker of her Hair and</B></div> <div> <B>Skin in my business establishment)</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Another bird person who will always have my loyalty is Howard Voren.  Howard</B></div> <div> <B>would have me look at pictures and communicate with me on the phone by pictures</B></div> <div> <B>to help me understand what he was saying to me pertaining to avian meds,</B></div> <div> <B>incubation, hatching and nursery management.  This was before he wrote his book</B></div> <div> <B>along with Rick Jordan.  Pictures are valuable, much more then words as any one</B></div> <div> <B>can see a picture.  Howard thought I was a foreign person as I had the Foriegn</B></div> <div> <B>Accent syndrom as my voice came back.  I had every accent in the world and it</B></div> <div> <B>would change each day as a different accent from different countries.  A fellow</B></div> <div> <B>at Boston University did the research on me.  They were three of us in the</B></div> <div> <B>country back then that had this from a head injury.</B></div> <div> <B>Today, I do have a different voice, however, I like this one better tehn the</B></div> <div> <B>one before my accident.  My birds helped me with my training to speak! </B></div> <div> <B>hahahhahh</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>As far as the walking, that was hard one to overcome.  I would practice with</B></div> <div> <B>feeding and watering my kids from cage to cage daily with out the that WALKER</B></div> <div> <B>wrapped around me.  I did that for about three year s or may be four years . </B></div> <div> <B>Then I went to a cane .  I made my cane with a blue parrot for my handle and I</B></div> <div> <B>used candle holders that I drilled hole s through to put the rod through all of</B></div> <div> <B>it.  I buildt most of my large cages with cutting, and putting them together. </B></div> <div> <B>I am a strong woman in body as I use to be a body builder and the coach for</B></div> <div> <B>power lifting.  I use to dead lift 238 and squat  at max 200 lbs.  I never lost</B></div> <div> <B>my strength!  This helped me along with aggrasive therapy which maintained my</B></div> <div> <B>strength.  </B></div> <div> <B>Back a few years ago maybe two..  Whella, I looked  like some woman who is</B></div> <div> <B>middle age with a walking stick!  I just would keep my mouth shut as I went</B></div> <div> <B>along so no one knew something was wrong with me.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>One of the wonders of REc.pets birds and BIN along with fideo, and a few other</B></div> <div> <B>networks is I was able to communicate with some ongoing people who cared about</B></div> <div> <B>me, which promoted my grammar and communication skills on a much on a wider</B></div> <div> <B>scale then ever expected .  some took interest in me and visited me and we</B></div> <div> <B>became friends.  This helped me as I got very good feedback on how I am with</B></div> <div> <B>birds , especially the large birds for most find them so difficult.  I ignored</B></div> <div> <B>the flames, or tried to  about the CAS and my writings, post or what ever as on</B></div> <div> <B>the whole, I was told by those that count that I am very good with birds,</B></div> <div> <B>microbiology and avian meds pertaining to my birds. </B></div> <div> <B>Thus, I continued without hesitation.</B></div> <div> <B>The birds used to ride around with me on my handlebars as I did my task and</B></div> <div> <B>were constant talkers, yakers which made my voice with music, or tone that was</B></div> <div> <B>most difficult for me to acquire on my own.  With screaming, the birds would</B></div> <div> <B>hurt my head or take the "audio' part of my injury and make me disfunctional in</B></div> <div> <B>my talking and walking.  THis is RECOVERY.  I needed that to get my hearing and</B></div> <div> <B>vocal cords together with new threads of cell renewal in the brain!  Can you</B></div> <div> <B>believe this.???  My birds are just what I needed to make a full recovery, a</B></div> <div> <B>complet recovery.  I am probably better off then most for I cannot do some of</B></div> <div> <B>the things that most "normal " people do as for instance:  "I cannot be late</B></div> <div> <B>for an appointment"  " I cannot demonstated any feelings, as anger, or an</B></div> <div> <B>exclaim of happiness or demonstrate love in public"  these would make others</B></div> <div> <B>say "oh, she has a head injry"</B></div> <div> <B>I cannot talk loud, act in any way normal in public.....and God forbiid, that I</B></div> <div> <B>should get rob at Publix .....for in my screming the people were more into my</B></div> <div> <B>"oh, she just has had a head injury" rather then the fact, someone was robbing</B></div> <div> <B>me!  Now, on that one I did wet my pants I was so afraid! Hah ha...and maybe a</B></div> <div> <B>"normal " person would of too!</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>I did have people in here to brush my teeth, shave my legs but I took care of</B></div> <div> <B>my babies...?  Rose  ordered my incubator, but I incubated, hatched and hand</B></div> <div> <B>fed every one of my babies without one death.....and I had twenty seven baby</B></div> <div> <B>Umbrellas alone that first year of my recovery.  I cried, died a thousand</B></div> <div> <B>deaths in my recovery only because I loved my baby birds so much  and I beg God</B></div> <div> <B>to spare nothing in making me whole again for them.  As time passed, the little</B></div> <div> <B>hearts beating in the eggs made me reconized that I had been there</B></div> <div> <B>before....that I was a breeder as a small child, thus the reaon the doctr</B></div> <div> <B>ordered the birds. Through this much of my life memories from a child onto the</B></div> <div> <B>day of my accident have been restored to me.  I have all of my resources as a</B></div> <div> <B>business woman, grandmother and mother....and a human being ...with the little</B></div> <div> <B>girl that was a breeder n my young years to today as I have been an active</B></div> <div> <B>breeder and care taker of birds , twenty four hours aday for the past nine</B></div> <div> <B>years with the exception of th e past year.  </B></div> <bR> <div> <B>I am sharing this in hopes that all may understand that what happen to me can</B></div> <div> <B>and most likely will  happen to you be it with a friend, loved one or</B></div> <div> <B>neighbors.....and to understand the courage , strength and hope that all of us</B></div> <div> <B>have available for us in the time of hopelessness.....</B></div> <div> <B>I, myself  exercised my hope, faith and my spirit  with my birds and</B></div> <div> <B>demonstrated the love within me by my caretaking my birds.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>I hope this sounds as if it has come from a "celebrated person" rather then the</B></div> <div> <B>victim I was!  After all, today, under my belt is a patent for a hand feeder I</B></div> <div> <B>invented because of my hand limitation at that time to feed with a syringe.</B></div> <div> <B>I have beautiful healthy birds that love me....and I have my business back for</B></div> <div> <B>the past year.  I am healthy, look beautiful and have no signs of a head</B></div> <div> <B>injury, nothing.  If anything, because of my history,  this past year I dont'</B></div> <div> <B>put up with much junk and that makes me very  busy iwth those poeple and</B></div> <div> <B>activities that I enjoy, love and thrive in growth for my own personal gain in</B></div> <div> <B>my spiritual life.  this has erased many frown lines in my face....Hah ha</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Those people in my life, nourish me, support me as well, I do the like and kind</B></div> <div> <B>to them.  Most have been involved in my life for over thirty years and we have</B></div> <div> <B>a ongoing consistant responsible friendship to one another.  I owe my life, my</B></div> <div> <B>recovery to these people for they never "atatagirl" me nor look at me any</B></div> <div> <B>different then they did the day of my accident.  They accepted my limitations</B></div> <div> <B>for the moment and had fatith of my full recovery.</B></div> <bR> <div> <B>Cherane  </B></div> <bR> <div> <B> "Quality</B></div> <div> <B>           is never an accident; </B></div> <div> <B>it is always the result of </B></div> <div> <B>high intention, sincere effort, </B></div> <div> <B>intelligent direction and skillful </B></div> <div> <B>execution;</B></div> <div> <B>it represents the wise choice </B></div> <div> <B>of many alternatives"</B></div> <bR> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>